Parenting Out of Faith VS. Fear
Communication is definitely very important because that will help us connect with our children. When we parent out of faith, our communication will flow better and our connection with our kids will go smoother. If we parent out of fear, we push them but the connection is missing.
Mental Self-Care and Sports Mom
Parents are the experts when it comes to their children. I think people in general, we are afraid of feelings and if you are one of the sports mom who is experiencing anxiety there is nothing wrong with you. There is no reason why we should judge ourselves and be hard on ourselves.
Suicide and Young Children
Give your children space to chime in, give them space to express their opinions because really they just want to be heard. When they feel they are not being heard that's when things change, there will be tension and that's what we don't want. At the age of 9 - 12 years old, a lot of the times they don't know what they are feeling and they don't know how to put their feelings into words. As parents, we need to be a good observer of our children's behavior for us to know how to help them.
The Sick Moms Guide: 028 Parenting 101
In parenting, we have to be resourceful because being involved in our kids' lives not only benefits them but it also benefits us. Do some research about their interests like the music or movies they like and use it as a conversation starter. Children love material things but believe it or not they also want warmth, approval and acceptance from their parents.
Rules without relationship lead to rebellion. We cannot be always about the rules because it's just not going to work in this time. It's true that children thrive in an environment where they know their boundaries are but it has to be communicated well. You cannot assume that your children already know.
Secrets To A Stress-free Morning
I know for me, personally, that my weeks are not all the same and just forgiving myself when I don't accomplish everything in the first place because we know we can't do it all at the same time. Focus on priorities vs your plan. Move on and agree to have a good day so your kids can do the same.
For people who know others who are going through postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety, it's important to listen and not judge their experience. It's important to not give their opinion unless ask to do so due to the sensitivity of the situation. Lastly, whenever you have a chance, offer or give them tangible and concrete assistance such as babysitting, bringing meals, taking them out for coffee or for lunch.
One Step At A Time
Be Gentle. Some of us have lost jobs, some of us are on the front healthcare lines, some of us have paychecks regularly coming in from corporate, some of us were mandated shut down, some of us are stressed at home with kids, some of us are supporting a spouse who has lost a job. In this episode we discuss the importance of being gentle FIRST on yourself, acknowledge your feelings and in turn be GENTLE on others acknowledging everyone is processing this in their unique way.
Making Homeschool Fun
WOW! Working and homeschooling young kids honestly is one of the biggest balancing jobs I have ever done!! On this podcast we discuss why it is important to make homeschooling FUN. It decreases feeling overwhelmed and allows for more child-led learning.
Compassion For Other Perspectives
It is vital to understand we all have different perspective and that everyone has the power to be considerate during this unsettling time following the 3 C’s: Community - remember that we are all going through this. Let's not minimize people’s feelings. Consider others perspectives. No judgment. Compassion - ask, "how can I serve?'; communicate and demonstrate appreciation and gratitude. Calm - spread calm and love. Seek for "good news". Asking ourselves daily how can I serve my community, my employees, my friends, my healthcare workers, my family during these Coronavirus days and all the days beyond.
We discuss homeschooling, balancing it all, mom guilt and 5 tips to a happy homeschool experience during the corona virus. (1) Stop following other people’s rules. Trust yourself. You know what works best for your family. (2) Reserve self-judgement- intentionally LOOK for things that make your family happy. (3) Set reminder up for yourself to alleviate pressure. (4) Be open to change and be flexible about the way you do things. (5) Breathe Deeply. And most important actively affirm to yourself that you’ve got this!
Mediate To Be Good At Life
Author Emily Fletcher says "we don't meditate to become good meditators. We meditate to become good at life." It's not about the details of how you do it or how long. But really giving yourself a chance to be self-compassionate at that moment. Not judging your thoughts and emotions.
Frequent breaks during the day can help increase a child's attention span, improve learning and decrease stress levels. You can use a timer if you'd like or post a schedule up for your little ones to see. You can expect that for every 45 minute instruction time, a 10 to 20 minute break would be good.
Surround Yourself With Positive People
Surround yourself with positive people. Positivity (1) rewires the brain because every emotion changes the neurochemistry of the brain. The opposite is also true. Negativity rewires the brain. (2) Positivity boosts your immune system (3) Positivity lowers stress levels which means focus, concentration and problem solving skills also increase. (4) Positivity increases our awareness and consciousness.
It Is Okay To Relax
Our message of encouragement for you is that it's ok to relax. We may be in a pandemic but you can protect your inner calm. Simplify your days by prioritizing your top 3 things. Check in with yourself first and regularly through out the day. Pace yourself. Tune in to how you're feelings. Watch for any negative thoughts that come up. Notice those and breathe them out in the moment. Go back to your top 3 priorities for the day. Remember to enjoy your time with your family.
Connection During Crisis
We just want to encourage you and remind you and ourselves really and our families that even through this chaos right now connection, love and empathy are very important. When we go through a crisis, our brain goes into survival mode so think emotions, think the brain is grappling for comfort looking for a way to get out of this and it is looking for a way to understand everything that is happening around us.
Resilience is not really about the absence of fear or positivity all the time, seeing rainbows in our situation or circumstances but what it really is that sense of hope and I know that Michelle eluded to this I believe four podcasts ago when she talked about perseverance and rising up in that human spirit and that is what Resilience is really all about.
Reframe Your Covid-19 Experience
We want to share with you this real technique we called reframing. Reframing is actually born out of what we call cognitive behavioral therapy so it is a real tool that we use whenever there is a change in our circumstances or situation or whenever we want to just shift energy and shift perspective. Now do not call it just simply positive thinking because reframing really does have this effect on our cognition that walks us through a better mood or a better attitude so it is not a simple positive thinking.
How To Set An Intention During Corona Virus Living
We are talking about setting intentions so Michelle and I were thinking about what can help us ground ourselves and bring us back to the present moment and we thought about how she and I both of us set daily intentions and we wanted to share what that means and what that looks like today.
Hope is not an emotion: It’s a cognitive process – a thought process made up of what researcher C.R. Snyder called the trilogy of “Goals, pathways, and agency.” Hope happens when we can set goals, have the tenacity and perseverance to pursue those goals, and believe in our own abilities to act.
We want to talk about how to overcome the overwhelming but more specifically, tools for overcoming some of our negative thoughts so we know that the pandemic has really affected us, our families, our communities but it also affected us personally as moms and we cannot deny that sometimes we have our own negative thoughts and what if we do not have an outlet right now to handle those thoughts.
Communication: Perspective + Kindness
Do you want to be the positive change? How to have a difference in opinion and still be kind! The world needs better communicators or even better listeners. We talk on strategies to allow society to have opinions (because we ALL have different perspectives) while learning perspective taking.
Communicating with Empathy & Authenticity
When we are intentional about developing empathy we can then show up as our authentic self. Think about the other persons perspective; Active listening develops empathy by validating what the other person is feeling and we don’t put them down; Come in with the intention to listen not to respond right away; A delayed response can be a wise strategy instead of responding right away; Set aside assumptions- assumptions always create chaos; Have conversations when your mind is clear. Expectations can be a barrier for empathy to develop.
Less Chaos More Love
I'm wondering if I am the only one feeling so unsettled, so trepidatious and floundering to resettle my soul after so many months of chaos. Learn 3 things moms can do to find more love and peace right now. I discuss the importance of working from the inside out: (1) Down Time (2) Inner Time (3) Focus Time.
Controlling the Controllables
How to focus in a world that feels so out of control right now. Here are some tips: (1) Be specific about what you want. (2) Look at what fills up your day-how does it make you feel? (3) Visualize yourself going through your day. (4) Reflect if there are places you can plan better. (5) Recall a day you felt stability & love (6) Ask for help to allow yourself to focus. (7) Reach out to our Ihelpmoms.com therapists if you need a reset.
Friendship and Tough World Times
We do not stand for racism and are committed to learning, growing and moving forward for equality & change. The turmoil, sadness and anger from the past two months caught up to me. My body & mind shut down last week. I needed to reset and find a better way to navigate these tough conversations and make sure my love continued to shine through.
Kids Transitions During A Pandemic
So much change is happening in school, pods, e-learning, sports, new teachers, fewer social interactions. I'll discuss how to help your kids have an easier transition during this pandemic time with masks and thermometers pointed at their faces and new environments. Watch out also for signs of significant behavior changes, loss of appetite, big emotions, attachment, or disassociation as your child may need professional therapy or counseling.
Navigating Stress and Anxiety with Your Kids
How are your kids doing nowadays? It's been a rough year for them and as moms, we want the best for them including their mental health. All the things we are forced to face - these types of challenges that we are faced with could definitely drive us into more anxiety.
What Causes Anxiety and How You Can Manage It Effectively
First of all, Anxiety is an emotion and we all experience emotions. However, what happens is that when anxiety becomes really intense - we tend to avoid things that we used to like and avoid things that are good for us. If these happen, we need to pause and assess ourselves, "Ok, what is happening?" because only an appropriate level of anxiety is good for us. However, when it becomes unmanageable to the point where we lose interest into pleasureable activities, we start to lose sleep and we start to lose appetite that's when we really need to seek help.
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